This story was posted by an internet user, Maxine who describes how she was upset with her partner’s habit of referencing to other women’s breast.
Here is the full story:
“I have been in this relationship for quite a long time now. We both are professionals and in our 50’s and 60’s. We are happy with each other but what’s really hurting me is my partner’s knack for referring to other women’s breasts. This is really random and mostly when he is drunk. I have small breasts and I don’t think my husbands like my breasts. It leaves me feeling inadequate and humiliated. Is it normal or other ladies feel the same? Can anyone help me? I would be grateful for your suggestions.”
We know that your situation is really difficult. It’s not only about your partner’s eyes on other women’s breasts, but it’s also creating doubts about your own worth!
Here are the things you should do first to understand it better:
Understand his behaviour
So, let’s talk about your partner’s behaviour first and why does he do it? Your husband has been talking about other women’s breasts and it’s definitely something to worry about.
Most women will be offended and it is no surprise that your husband has offended you. This will also make you feel disrespected.
To be honest, it is natural for men to notice other women and their attractive features. In the same way, it’s common for women to notice good looking men.
However, it is definitely not common to share your thoughts about it with your partner.
Talk to him about it
Tell your husband how it makes you feel bad about yourself. Begin the conversation by opening up about your own insecurity – your breasts.
Ask your husband directly why he does that and are you not good enough for him?
Tell him that you are self-conscious about your breasts size without bringing his behavior.
Ask him if he ever feels insecure about the things he cannot change.
If he is sympathetic to your feelings, you can directly tell him what’s bothering you. And if he mentions other women, tell him you feel even further pain. By doing this, you are not directly accusing him.
See what happens after you have told him how you feel about it
After you have confessed to your husband that referring to other women’s breasts hurts you, take some time to decide whether the relationship is worth your investment. Monitor whether he improves this nature.